Today is my grandma’s birthday she turned 83, with her strength and determination I have no doubt that she would live to see another 20 more years. she bared 10 children of which 3 didn’t make it completely through, but seeing her being surrounded by the surviving ones today was really a blessing. They came from near and far to come spend time with her. As emotional as it already was she could not contain the tears of joy reminders of where she came from and where she is now.
Presently I’m old enough to have a family of my own, and if I did have a baby today she would have been a great grandmother, but God had decided that it wasn’t my time yet, so I’m still waiting. But I’m pretty sure you are asking yourself why I’m telling you all this.
Family is extremely , extremely important. As a Caribbean people we grow up with that sense of togetherness…well most of us anyway! The world is not what it used to be. When reaching a certain age our mothers always put the bug in our ear “you need to get yourself a good man…to make/do your life” (translated from creole: “fok ou cheche yon bon neg pou ka fe lavi’w” )
Living in the United States we find ourselves consumed by our daily lives, we mostly work to pay the bills and we do it day in and day out. I ask myself when the elders are gone, will the same sense of togetherness remain? The children of now are mostly interested about making the next dollar, and associate success by the amount of money they carry in the bank. Is life really about finding companionship, success or both? Are we really limited to these factors to find happiness? Are we women continue to be categorized because we can’t find “a good man”?…Life is crazy and apparently I think too much..lol.
I guess bottom line is, life is what you make of it! I can’t make everyone happy unfortunately. However cherish those who love you for in the long run, the greatest moments spent together are the only gems that really matter!
Hats off to all the grandmothers that made it in 2011!!
Below is an old photo I stumbled upon with Grandma and SOME of the grand kids!